Virginia Dollinger: Reasons People Get Divorced

Divorce can occur suddenly or over the course of many years. I’ve seen it time and again as a divorce lawyer. Some couples decide that it is time to call it quits after many years. Other couples part ways after a few short weeks.

Every divorce case is different. The following list explains some of the most common reasons that people divorce:

Infidelity. Some couples manage to get over an instance of infidelity. Others never recover from the break in trust.
Communication breakdown. Many marriages end simply because of poor communication.
Financial issues. Unfortunately, for spouses throughout the country, love is not enough. Numerous marriages end because of financial difficulty.
Sexual incompatibility. A number of marriages end because a couple does not discover until after they are married that they are sexually incompatible.
Cultural or religious differences. Such differences can eat away at a marriage until a couple ultimately needs to separate.
Lack of children. Some people get married and expect to immediately have children. However, when conception is not possible for whatever reason, they file divorce papers.
Substance abuse. When one spouse abuses drugs or alcohol, the chances of divorce increase substantially.
Difference in priorities. In some cases, a marriage may end because one spouse has certain priorities and expectations in life that conflict with those of the other spouse.

Couples get divorced for a wide variety of reasons. Sometimes even the couple does not know exactly why their marriage did not work out. But whatever the reason for your divorce, you can benefit from experienced, aggressive legal representation.

How to Recover from Divorce

The time period after a divorce can be very stressful. Although you are likely going to be focused on all the logistics of starting off on a new path by yourself and helping your children cope with the major change in their lives, it’s important to take some time for yourself so you can heal emotionally.

The following are a few tips to help you recover from the stress of a divorce:

Let it all out. It’s completely normal to mourn. Divorce is a difficult process, and you cannot truly recover from it before you have given yourself space to do so. Embracing the grieving process helps you to avoid bringing baggage into your life and future relationships.
Explore your interests. Spend some time rediscovering who you are as a person. Reserve time to explore your interests and get involved in things that spark your passions. The best way to get started is to ask yourself what you enjoyed doing by yourself before you were married.
Do not rush into new relationships. Many recently divorced people want to get into a new relationship as quickly as possible. But by spending time alone and taking it slow in regard to new relationships, you are able to become more comfortable with yourself and more ready to engage with someone new.
Spend time with your children. Make sure your children are also recovering from the divorce in a healthy, positive way. Spend time with them, but do not lean on them as friends or confidants. Just make sure they know they are loved and that you are still going to be there for them.

Free Consultation with Divorce Lawyer in Utah

If you have a question about divorce law or if you need to start or defend against a divorce case in Utah call Ascent Law at (801) 676-5506. We will fight for you.